This post is about telling the truth. Being real. Being vulnerable.
I have been reading Brene Brown quotes this week and it seems the need to be a little daring and vulnerable has been triggered in me. For the last month or so I have been doing end of year reflecting, which has led me to consider the business of business.
I wrote this for myself and for my fellow solo entrepreneurs but the essence of the post applies to all of us sometimes.
Business is an interesting energy. Building a business alone is even more interesting because you are...well....alone. Working in isolation is hard some days and not for the feint of heart...or extroverts :)
Trying to keep your motivation up, looking for leads, going to networking meetings to meet other business people, putting yourself and your ideas out there, really pushing yourself out of your comfort zone most of the time.
In this business of business, one of the things I have noticed myself do at times is lie.
I lie about how business is going. When someone asks me how my business is going I say good. Sometimes that is a lie.
When someone asks “how’s business”, and business isn’t that great or we are not really enjoying it at the moment, why don’t we just say so?
I understand it is human nature, that we want to be seen as successful, like we know what we are doing and like we have it all together. But what if instead we said:
Oh, it’s not that great right now, but I am hopeful it will get better
I am feeling some self doubt, I’m thinking I might give up and look for a job
Funds are running low right now and my family is putting pressure on me to make this business work (i.e. bring in money)
I am not sure if I have what it takes to make this business match my vision of what I want it to be
Holy crap this business is eating my life up
Telling our truth is healthy…and vulnerable. And it helps others.
If I tell the truth about where I am at, then you feel safe enough to choose to do the same. It also opens a space to be supportive and helpful to each other. If I have been through something, or have overcome an obstacle you are dealing with, I can share that with you and we both come out ahead because we have created a deeper connection.
When I help you succeed, I succeed…and vice versa.
The next time someone asks “how’s business” I intend to tell my truth, whatever it is in that moment. How about you?