Today I am home. I am hanging out in my slouchy "I don't have any work scheduled" clothes. I am dabbling in a bit of this and a bit of that. I make a coffee and start surfing around the internet with no real intention to do anything much but lightly entertain myself.
As often happens to me when I am in this "space" an email came in from a coach I follow. She had done a video about the stories we tell ourselves. First off I start thinking, ya ya, I know this stuff. I've read about this, blah, blah, blah. But as I continued to listen and stopped my know it all ego voice from chattering away in my head, something cool happened; I saw myself, I recognized that what she was talking about I needed to hear today.
This one question in her video really struck me:
" Are you getting stuck in the experiences of your story?"
What do I tell myself about my life, my work, my health, my relationships?
For example, if I had a negative experience with a friend that really hurt me, am I telling myself that all my experiences with others will be similar. Am I telling myself that all friendships end up a certain way? Do I tell myself that I don't really need friends?
If my work hasn't lived up to what I had hoped for and I feel disappointed , do I tell myself that I am just not that good at what I do, or that there isn't enough interest, or that I don't know enough yet? Or maybe that where I am is good enough and I don't need more?
Maybe I've spent time telling myself a low self-esteem story. I am not smart enough, pretty enough, popular enough. Or perhaps someone in my life put me down and made my feel terrible. Does that mean that I have to experience that forever? Do I need to continue experiencing that story?
So how do we change our story and move on from the experiences of old ones? It takes inquiry, honest self-reflection, time and choice. It takes a willingness to be self-aware and notice what stories you're telling. It takes a desire to craft a new story and an effort to exchange old beliefs/stories for new transformative ones.
Our stories can be changed and transformed because we have the power to tell a new story! What story will you rewrite today?
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